Forgiveness - A Tool for Healing

Hold your horses… I’m not about to get all religious on you, but I do want to discuss forgiveness.

Anyone who knows me, absolutely knows how I feel about controlled cults and organised religion, and I make no apologies for it. They all have a word or two to say about forgiveness though, which is interesting. Perhaps those lineages that wrote the rules decided they’d quite like others to turn the other cheek and forgive them for the evil they exude.

Forgiveness is one of the most widely emphasised spiritual principles across the world’s religions, though each tradition understands it somewhat differently. At its core, forgiveness is often seen as a path to healing, reconciliation, freedom from resentment and spiritual growth.

Many people see forgiveness as a weakness, as if by forgiving they are somehow allowing the other person to “get away with it”. Yet despite their differences, most spiritual traditions share some common themes:

• Forgiveness is primarily an inner transformation.

• Forgiveness is not the same as condoning wrongdoing.

• Forgiveness often requires humility.

• Forgiveness can be a path to spiritual freedom.

• Forgiveness is often seen as an expression of divine qualities.

  
  

The common thread that I’ve seen during thousands of hypnotherapy sessions, is that forgiveness changes the person doing the forgiving and sometimes in the most profound way. 

Childhood trauma was a huge theme running through many of my sessions this last month. Time and time again I see how the child within retains the hurt, the anger, the feelings of being let down, abandoned, betrayed or resentful.

It can be a challenge to forgive when you’ve walked through so much darkness, so much pain, sometimes so much evil. Yet when someone is sitting in front of me beginning their healing journey, it tells me something important about them.

They are an incredibly strong soul.

It takes enormous courage for an adult to wake up one day and decide they are ready to do their shadow work. To stop running away from it, and to stop distracting themselves. To turn around and face the darkness held within and ask what is ready to be released.

When we dance our way through life, the incredible memories, happiness, joy and laughter all raise our frequency and the light within us shines brighter. However, when we wade our way through life, when situations seem impossible, when we experience loss, trauma or a Dark Night of the Soul, and we aren’t able to process or heal what happened, we take that energy into our bioenergetic field and it remains there.

Often it feels dense, heavy, stagnant; sometimes for decades.

Occasionally certain people, places or situations will reignite the original wound and suddenly the old emotions come flooding back as though they happened yesterday. The anger, grief, fear or resentment becomes active once more and the stagnant energy feels heavier than ever.

As an energy healer I will scream on the hilltop that everything is energy!! The magical signal that comes out of your cell phone is energy, the chair you’re sit on is energy, the emotions you feel are energy!!!

Spirituality tells us this, science tells us this (though they took far too long to catch up). When we carry anger, resentment, bitterness and old wounds, it isn’t simply a thought rattling around inside our heads. It becomes part of our energetic signature. It’s like walking around carrying a backpack full of emotional bricks whilst complaining that life feels heavy. Well of course it does, you've packed enough baggage for a fortnight in the Maldives.

The human biofield is constantly communicating. Every thought, emotion and belief broadcasts a frequency. We’ve all met people who can walk into a room and instantly lift the atmosphere. Equally, we’ve all met people who can suck the joy out of a room quicker than a Dyson on steroids.

That is energy!!

When someone hurts us and we replay the event over and over again, we unknowingly create an energetic tether. Imagine a giant spiritual extension lead plugged directly into the very person you’d rather never see again. Insane right!!! Why would you do that???

Every time you revisit the anger.

Every time you relive the injustice.

Every time you replay the argument whilst shampooing your hair.

You’re feeding energy down that cable.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean sending them a Christmas card or a birthday gift, and it certainly doesn’t mean inviting them over for tea and biscuits.

It means unplugging the cable.

From an energetic perspective, forgiveness is one of the most powerful acts of self-healing available to us. The moment we release the emotional charge around an event, the biofield begins reorganising itself. Stagnant energy starts moving and the heart becomes lighter. The nervous system no longer feels the need to stay on high alert waiting for a battle that happened twenty or forty years ago.

I’ve seen clients arrive carrying enough emotional armour to survive a medieval siege. Then, during a hypnotherapy session, something huge shifts.

The old wound releases.

The resentment softens.

The tears come.

The forgiveness begins.

Suddenly their eyes brighten and their posture changes. Their entire energy field feels different and they can feel it! It’s as though the soul has been holding its breath for decades and finally decides it’s safe to exhale and release.

I am in admiration of the client who wakes up one day and decides enough is enough. The client who decides they are ready to shift this low-frequency stagnant energy.

It’s important to remember that the person or people who hurt you, in whatever form that took, most likely don’t give a fig about how you feel or how their actions affected your life.

They are, in simple terms, spiritually blind.

Everyone is on a different path; some species of human are descending and others, like you, are ascending.

I would never want a client to forget what happened because having gone through such diabolical experiences we must eventually transmute them and discover the gifts hidden within the experience. Perhaps you’ve developed fierce boundaries. Maybe you became wonderfully independent, or you became a protective and loving parent because you knew exactly what not to do. Perhaps your compassion deepened because you understand suffering.

I won’t tell you that you chose the experience to learn from because I don’t know that to be true. What I do know is that for some reason, within this extraordinary matrix we call life, you absolutely experienced it and to go through such darkness I will absolutely guide you to the light within.

By using hypnotherapy as a powerful healing tool to revisit those experiences through both the younger self and the wiser adult self, it becomes possible to view the story from an entirely different perspective.

The funny thing is that forgiveness isn’t really for them at all. It’s your own thoughts, feelings and emotions that have been running the show of late. 

Most of the time the person who caused the pain is carrying on with their life completely unaware that they are the lead villain in a twenty-year emotional box set playing repeatedly inside your own mind.

Meanwhile your body is carrying the stress, your bio-field is carrying the density, and your heart is carrying the burden.

Forgiveness is the moment you cancel the subscription to the program.

You stop paying emotionally for something that happened years ago.

You reclaim your power.

You re-call your energy back. 

Remember, water is the element of emotion. Water stores, carries and moves energy.

Drinking from the poison chalice of old anger, resentment, hatred, hopelessness and grief, long after you’ve become a capable and functioning adult, only continues to poison you.

The person who hurt you may not have been in your life for years.

Yet every time you pick up that chalice and take another sip, you reactivate the low-frequency energy that continues to hold you back.

When stagnant emotional energy remains trapped within the body, it can eventually manifest physically. Random aches and pains with no obvious explanation. Digestive issues where you simply can’t stomach any more. Shoulder pain from carrying the weight of the world. Hip, leg or foot problems where life seems unwilling to let you move forward.

Many energy healers and spiritual teachers, including Julia Cannon, have written extensively on this connection between unresolved emotions and physical symptoms.

Forgiveness isn’t forgetting. It’s looking down and realising there’s a ball and chain attached to your ankle and the other end is attached to theirs.

It’s picking up Thor’s hammer and smashing the chain into a thousand pieces.

It’s saying:

“I no longer allow your energy to drain me.”

“I no longer give you authority over my frequency.”

“You go your way with love, and I shall continue mine.”

When enough people do this, something remarkable happens.

The frequency of not only the individual, but the collective, begins to rise.

One healed heart influences another.

One released wound creates more space for light.

One soul stepping out of victimhood becomes a beacon for others still finding their way through the darkness.

Remembering how wonderful water is at holding and releasing emotion, I encourage you to create a sacred ritual.

Run yourself a beautiful bath surrounded by candles.

Add a handful of sea salt to cleanse your auric field.

Rose petals or rose oil to raise your frequency and open the heart.

A little rosemary to strengthen and amplify your aura.

Allow the water to hold you.

Allow it to cleanse you.

Allow it to carry away what no longer serves you.

Or if you have a shower, stand beneath it like a healing waterfall.

Close your eyes.

See the stagnant energy washing from your body and spiralling down the drain.

Watch the old emotions leave.

Watch the cords dissolve.

Watch your light return.

Most importantly, remember who you truly are.

An incredible Divine Angelic Oraphim soul who came here to shine brightly and assist in the ascension of this beautiful planet.

You did not come here to allow others to drain your energy.

You did not come here to remain shackled to old wounds.

You came here to rise, to heal, and to remember your true power!!

Step forward firmly onto your path of healing.

Raise your frequency so high that the people and energies that once pulled you down are simply no longer a vibrational match.

And that, my beautiful souls, is the true gift of forgiveness.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, and if you now feel drawn to, please do head over to Subsack will you'll find my weekly musings.

Much Love

Yvette x